Hydrogen (H; #1) and Helium (He; #2) atoms form from the Big Bang. The He atom is also the He molecule, as it has a complete shell. H atom needs to pair to become the hydrogen molecule (H2): two electrons shared and the first orbital level is filled.
Gravity brings these atoms and molecules together until a critical mass is reached, nuclear fusion starts mostly converting #1 to #2. A star is born. As its nuclear fuel ( #1) runs out, the star dies. Its dying flames leads to more fusion: #2 into #6 (through #4, but Be has no role in this story, nor #3, Li). Heavier elements will form in the next star; many are essential to life.
Carbon (#6) is created in each generation star, so this is perhaps why it is the most common element in the universe after #1 and #2. Our sun is a third generation sun, and the Earth formed from the ashes of a second generation sun that exploded some 5 billion years ago.
Why is life carbon based? With 6 electrons it pairs with 4 atoms to complete its electronic shell (2 in first orbit, 8 in second) for stability. Four bonds is the most that elements with two orbits can have. Is it a coincidence that silicon (Si, #14), below C in the Periodic Table, also needs four bonds and is the base for digital life (computer chips)?
The versatility of carbon can be seen in coal and diamond. Very different materials because the carbon atoms are organised in different ways. Let’s look at life through the lens of food, which itself it just life or formerly living cells of plant, animal, or fungal origin.
There are three types of major nutrient in food: protein, fat, and carbohydrate (carb). Although only the last has carbon in its name, carbon provides the structure for each of these elements, but aided by Nitrogen (#7) in the case of proteins. Carbon also provides the scaffolding for the DNA molecule, through ribose a 5-carbon ring; but that also needs nitrogen. (And phosphorous for the spiral)
Protein
Proteins are made from amino acids: a central carbon atom (C) connected to an amine group (H:N:H, NH2) and a carboxyl (O::C:O:H, COOH) group. The proton (H) of the carboxyl group can be attached to the N, creating a hydrogen bond between the two groups. This chaining mechanism allows creation of some very complex molecular structures and machines. Other elements, for example iron for haemoglobin, may be needed for protein function. This is why certain minerals are essential in our diet.
Every amino acid also has a unique side chain that provides the fourth bond to the central C atom. The side chain also has a C backbone that determines how it behaves when linked with other amino acids.
Proteins are molecular machines that provide structure, enzymes, hormones, and more. These functions derive from their shape, the specific linear list of amino acids and its unfolding into a 3-D shape that enables its function. The 20 amino acids create the amazing range of molecules needed for life.
Fat
Dietary fat are the fatty acids, chains of 4 to 28 C atoms with a carboxyl (O::C:O:H, COOH) end that makes it acid (a proton donor). The proton of the carboxyl is ‘loosely held’ as COO with a negative charge is relatively stable.
If there is one or more double bond (share two electrons) between the carbon atoms, the fat is unsaturated. A monounsaturated has a single double bond, a polyunsaturated fatty acid has several. If the carbon chain has no double bonds, it is called saturated as it cannot take on any more hydrogen atoms.
A saturated fatty acid is straight, while the unsaturated bend at the double bond. So, both the position and number of carbon double bonds change the shape of the fatty acid. And shape leads to function. A key function of fatty acids is to make the cell wall. We can also store excess energy as fat, and can convert glucose to fat.
Carbohydrate
Unlike fat and protein, carbohydrates have no structural function apart from energy storage. Plants convert sunlight, carbon dioxide and water into glucose, the ‘model’ carbohydrate unit, a 6-Carbon ring, with one C atom replaced by an oxygen atom in the hexagon, and the C atom outside the ring providing the link from one glucose molecule to the next to form a disaccharide or polysaccharide – multiple of these hexagonal units of the glucose molecule.
So, I could not use #6 for Carbon, but could use C its standard abbreviation. And I don’t want this biochemistry to get too complex. But I hope you got the message, the chemistry of life happens on the scaffold of C atoms, because of its position in the periodic table which reflects the number of electrons in a carbon atom: 6.
Once the first sperm enters the egg, the egg closes off its outer wall so that no other sperm can enter. The winner takes all (with the odd failure!). This is the start of you; and you are who you are, because of the specific egg and sperm that won the race. Your unique genetic code resulted from the unique combination of sperm and egg that became you.

